Well, here’s the thing: you’re really the only person who can truly answer your own questions when it comes to gender and sexuality. The best “advice” I can offer is to delve a little deeper into studying both aspects and spending a lot of “me” time to think about what it is you truly want.

I know it’s hard because a lot of people who are a little lost and confused (I was that way for a LONG time) really crave closure; but it’s important to realize there is no need to rush! Some people can “find” themselves fairly easily, while others take a bit longer. Hell, you can be 90 and still question yourself, on multiple levels.

The most important thing is to just be happy with yourself. Love yourself. That way, you feel a lot less antsy when trying to figure out your sexuality or gender. Because in the end, you’re YOU, and neither of those things will really affect that. I really personally believe that if you feel less stress about needing to figure these things out, you’re calmer and come to the conclusions easier. At least, that’s how it was with me.

Although, I don’t think “wanting to be seen as a person and not just a female” is something all females (sex and gender) want. Nobody wants to be seen as something other than just themselves.

So, I suppose if you’re asking for advice, it would really be to love yourself first. And if you’re already there, that’s great! I’ve also found that browsing a few sexuality/gender identity forums can help at times. I was at AVEN for a while, back when I was thinking I may be entirely asexual. Most of the time, when you’re surrounded by people with similar situations, they’ll be accepting and kind. But this is also the internet, so you may still run into some douchebags.

It also may be something worth talking to your physician about. I actually found out that I couldn’t be asexual while talking to mine! There was a pretty fundamental fact that wasn’t talked about much when I was searching on my own; (sorry for the tmi) that enjoying masturbation means you have at least some form of sexuality. There is a lot to be said about your personal preference when it comes to relationships as a whole, and not just the sexual kind.

Um, I hope that helps, in any case! It’s really more about self exploration than someone saying “you feel x, y, and z so you must be this”.